36. Favoritism Runs Deep
My mother was not subtle (although never verbally admitted) of her favoritism towards my little sister. We were both in taekwondo. But I was also in baseball. I wanted to quit taekwondo because I had no life between the two and I was much better at baseball (and frankly was a better prospect). She told me I can quit baseball but not taekwondo. Well I didn’t care and quit anyways. So, she refused to pay for baseball. So, I never played again. My dad was unemployed at the time so he couldn’t pay either. The only reason was because my sister was in it and my mom had a thing for the instructors (even before they separated, she was like that).
Got my license, wouldn’t help with car. Paid $150 for a beater. My sister? My mom gave her her car that was four years old. Remember taekwondo? Took my sister to Korea for a tournament (she had no business going, she was not good at all). Told me and my bro to eat at our friends’ houses if we wanted food. She didn’t go shopping before she left. She was gone for three weeks.
But the worst moment happened on Christmas. I wanted an N64. That’s it. Didn’t care to get anything else. After years of her telling us she spends the same on each of us. Got clothes and some toys. Clothes came from goodwill. My sister? New name brand clothes, jewelry, toys, CD player (I’m 36 so this was back in the 90s and early 2000s). The works. She probably spent $100 each on me and my brother. I looked up just some of the things she got my sister and it came out to over $1,000. That was just some. My sister’s pile was always halfway up the Christmas tree. Massive. Mine and my brother’s fit neatly under the tree. She would tell us “her stuff was just big and cheap” lol.
That’s just a few things off the top of my head.